I have 1 teenager (girl). They are suppose to be the worst. I kept wondering why she was so great. Not questioning it, just wondering about it. I started to think about how I was parenting her, and came to this conclusion...

It wasn't just how I was parenting but how I was her friend. It wasn't that long ago I was a teen (it doesn't feel that long ago, but was). When I related my experiances to hers, without putting my 2cents in but just listening and remembering. I realized, we arn't that different, although she would say it's way different, it's really not. When we talk, I don't really need to disipline her, I just trust that she will feel safe enough in our friendship to tell me what's up. She will not always do so, I know, but while I have my sweet little friend, I will be there. I believe it's not the swat on the behind, or scolding her that made her this way but, by being a good listener and friend as well as being a mom.

I asked her what she thaught about this and she agreed, weird, I KNOW! Ask your teen if you listened more and talked less, if that's all they need.

Same goes for any Pre-Teen. Of which I have 1(girl). This one is more of a challenge, but still I find that less talking and more listening is the KEY, to unlocking the perfect relationship with your daughters. Teen, Pre-Teen or adult.

Tips-

1. They need their space, but only and arms length.

2. They need their hairspray and makeup, help them with it if they ask.

3. They are going to like boys, keep an eye on the boy more than your daughter. Trust in her in this area is key.

4. Make sure if she is in the room, you give her a smile and make her feel as though she is most important and she will feel like talking to you, sometimes for no reason but to ask how her hair looks.

5. I know it's scary, I am afraid everyday, but the Biggest thing I have learned thus far is to be supportive. After all, they are not babies anymore, (eventhogh we see them that way anyway). They must be able to make descisions for themselves. We just need to be there if it didn't go the way they wanted or thaught it would.

*This is based on experiance and opinions, I don't expect anyone to agree. but share your experiances and what works for you and what didn't.

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